Can I solve your problem?


Not a good question because the answer is infinity. There is a human pattern of asking people around what the problem is. This is a tactic to get into the energy of interesting people. Another way to look at is, if I had a problem and I loved you, don’t you think I will come and ask you? Or whether, if I have a problem, and I am not coming to you, the question is why? Or maybe I have a problem, but so do you, so whether you should fix your problem first? Asking what's your problem is also rude. So as you see above, it’s a very complicated question, but it’s very easy to go down the rat hole, a cluster fuck situation. Then most of the people, sit around, examining their conversation and figure out an upper edge. This is all because of the root of the question. Why should we ask anyone whether we can solve their problem? When I myself have problems of my own to solve. Rather ask, what's your question? This goes into Socrates method of communication. If you encounter people that have very strong opinions, rather imposing your opinion, ask questions. Then decide if it makes sense to give an answer or not. This saves energy and people get the message that you understand what’s going on beneath the surface.